One of the most common questions I get asked is, “Shwetha, where do I begin?” followed by some version of
“I’m in a deadend job, my relationships aren’t what they used to be, I feel like I’m not going anywhere and am simply going from one day to the next. Doing whatever I can, but it doesn’t feel enough. I’m constantly feeling like I’m behind schedule or am missing something.”
Is that you too?
Then, begin here. I talk about this in my book Far From Fine
Step 1 is recognising you’re not quite alright as you proclaim you are. So if you can realise and articulate it in as many words, there is already awareness.
Stay with that awareness. It’s discomforting, yes, I know. But the way out is through. You already know that because you must have tried ignoring it, denying it, and escaping it before you decided to do something about it. So, congratulate yourself on mustering the courage to acknowledge the problem. Most of us live out our entire lives without becoming aware of this.
Step 2 is finding your way to a state of balance.
What do I mean by that? I’m sharing a snippet from the book
So, balance amidst what?
Our lives consist of four interconnected and interdependent aspects: physical, mental, intellectual, and spiritual. Achieving genuine well-being and leading a fulfilling life requires us to balance each of these aspects.
1. Physical Quotient: We all know the basics of this already. 3 Key Pillars impact our physical quotient – Nutrition, Movement, and Sleep. Look at your life and make the necessary changes to balance this.
2. Mental Quotient: Checking in on our emotional well-being and learning to self-regulate our emotions so we are not constantly on edge.
3. Intellectual Quotient: We all like a challenge because our intellect needs to be stimulated. Nurture intellectual well-being through activities such as reading, learning new skills, and seeking knowledge
4. Spiritual Quotient: We are social beings who cannot live in isolation. This quotient involves finding meaning, purpose, and connection to something greater than ourselves. It might involve religious practices, such as prayer or scripture reading, or simply embracing the oneness of all living beings.
These seem negligible, but are most crucial
As long as we are in survival mode, we cannot gather the resourcefulness and cognitive abilities needed to think differently and generate clarity. While it may seem simple, nurture balance between these 4 quotients to allow for clarity to emerge on what is ne
